Category: Mens Issues


Masturbation and Prostate Health: Could This Be the Link to Fighting Prostate Cancer?

October 22, 2019

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Eat right! Exercise 60 minutes each day, every day! Lift weights three times per week! Start meditating! Ejaculate at least 21 times per month!

What… wait a second, what was that last one?

Studies are showing that men who ejaculate more are reducing their risk of prostate cancer. Still not sure if this is fact or fiction? Keep reading.

The Link Between Masturbation and Prostate Health

More and more studies suggest that regular ejaculation, like that done through masturbation, has been shown to reduce the risk of prostate cancer. So, just how much ejaculation is considered regular? A 2016 study established that men who ejaculated 21 times or more each month saw a 20 percent decrease in the likelihood of prostate cancer. Men should know this isn’t just some fly-by-night, two-month study of ten dudes.

This study went on for 18 years and profiled nearly 32,000 men.

A Harvard study also showed similar results but found a decreased risk of 33 percent.

Why does frequent ejaculation help fight prostate health? Scientists haven’t exactly pinned that down quite yet. The best theory they have thus far is the idea that it can flush out harmful chemicals that may accumulate in semen.

However, there are a Few Other Things to Note

Scientists haven’t totally proved the theory. There is a lot of evidence of a conclusive link between ejaculation and lowering the risk of prostate cancer. It’s very possible that men who live healthier lifestyles have stronger libido, stronger erections, and potentially attract more partners than those who don’t exercise regularly, eat well, and practice stress and mental health management.

Also, ejaculation doesn’t protect the most deadly or advanced types of prostate cancer. Scientists aren’t sure why.

There’s also the type of ejaculation to consider. Hard to believe, but scientists believe all ejaculation is not created equal. The semen makeup differs in sex-related ejaculation and masturbation-related ejaculation. For example, sex adjacent ejaculation has higher levels of sperm and other chemicals. Potentially, this could affect the masturbation and prostate health link if masturbation doesn’t clear the same level of waste from the body as sex.

Here’s the Rub… Literally

Also, other smaller studies are showing that age makes a huge difference in the specific link between masturbation and prostate health arena. Findings are that men in their 20’s and 30’s who masturbate frequently are actually at a higher risk of developing prostate cancer. This bumps up against men in their 50’s who are part of the Self-Love Society who reduce their risk. On top of that, ejaculation through sexual contact was the same for both age groups and reduced prostate cancer risk. No word yet on why there’s a difference.

In Summary

No one is exactly sure why frequent masturbation and prostate health are linked. The main theory believes it may have something to do with the seminal fluid that’s expelled during orgasm. It’s possible it rids the prostate tissue from things that cause cancer, infection, and inflammation.

Bottom Line: choke the chicken, play five on one, or give yourself a hand to reduce the risk of prostate cancer. It’s a fun way to promote penis health and relieve stress.


His Strength Emerges in Being Safely Vulnerable

October 22, 2019

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Either a bear hug or a firm handshake: two common responses I get from men after a deep chat. Both are perfectly fine by me. Both communicate sincerity of spirit, man-to-man, an appreciation that we are equals before God, and that we bear a common love for one another.

I have had plenty of encounters with men recently involving raw and honest discussions about fear and sadness and the anger that overrules us as men. And every interaction is inspiring as we see honesty rise.

It’s common for humanity to want some sense of control, and it’s my experience that control is hardwired into many of us men, and we really have no idea why. The first thing I’ve discovered about myself is the importance of becoming aware of just how important control is. I hate being out of control, and if there is anything worse than feeling confused within myself, it’s when family (who have no idea what my mind is battling with) brings additional demands. It is not their fault. It never is. Yet they can occasionally bear the brunt of my being overwhelmed. Family does that in all our lives, yet we’ve been so conditioned to feel guilty and ashamed when we get it wrong.

I know so many men who experience these same things and feel quite the same way. I’m thankful that I’m not alone.

The only way to deal with the guilt and shame that comes from learned behaviour is to talk about it and to dethrone the guilt and shame; to put Jesus back on the throne, because, quite frankly, he doesn’t abide in the guilt and shame – only the enemy of God does that!

I encourage men to begin a relationship with their anger, their fear, their sadness, because it cannot hurt them and can only help them and their important others. This is to acknowledge that in life we’re often overwhelmed, and to underplay that, or to make people feel guilty for ‘not being enough’, is in itself an abuse.

Jesus dealt with guilt and shame at the cross, for all eternity, for all our lives, for every situation.

I have seen so many men begin the journey to be freed of the bondage of their guilt and shame, even to the point where they can come close to and not fear their fear, acknowledge and be sad about their sadness, and begin to see all these so-called wrong things as the very fuel for their own spiritual renovation. It is the work that God desires to do in every single one of us.

In tackling pornography addiction with very small groups of men, I have seen men emerge as better equipped human beings for everyone within their sphere of influence, not least themselves as peace, hope, and joy abide. I have seen shame lift off their shoulders, a lightness in to their faces, and a safe boldness characterise their step. Honesty empowers.

Incredible strength emerges, a power for healing, when deep shame is spoken forth in a safe forum.

I prefer to work with men, because I feel better equipped. Through the breakup of my first marriage, and in the acknowledgement of my failures as a husband first time around, God has given me much more of an appreciation that life is a journey designed to be divinely navigated; that it is only when I concede my weakness that I can draw on God’s strength; that the Lord has so much to show us, and that we need that help, daily.

So many men have learned to bottle up their sadness, their fear, their shame and guilt. So many women have, too. Men are not unique in this way, but men are much more reticent to give voice to their weakness, never realising most of the time that only the strong person can admit weakness.

We have to debunk the lie: tough men hide their feelings. Hiding what we feel will only make us weak in the worst of ways. Strength comes from being honest about what we’re facing.

Men need a forum where they can share without judgement or advice, unless they are seeking advice.

I have often thought that we need listening services in our communities, which would be places people could go, and in this case men, and simply be heard. In being listened to, they might simply experience the affirmation of nods and gestures and smiles and other body language that validates their experience. Nothing else is required. At least initially.

Much of the time people need to be heard and affirmed that they are not crazy, irrational, stupid, and the like. We all see through unique lenses. And our experience of the world, man-for-man, is equally valid.

It can only be an honour to hear another person voice their own experience and, as we listen, to try and understand what life has been like for them. As we listen like this, God ministers to us too! This kind of ministry is always a two-way street.

Imagine if someone who was deeply troubled knew they are an agent of God’s work even within their distress!

Men need to be heard and they need to be understood, and most of all men need to be encouraged to be honest, to share their burden, and allow their own experience to inform them that these very things are the keys to mental and emotional recovery and restoration.

Right at the end I want to state something really important: there is the appropriate place for momentary guilt and shame (godly sorrow) in response to our wrongdoing, but it’s only intended to bring us to the point of remorse for what we’ve done, and to motivate the righting of those wrongs. This is restorative justice. And out of this comes peace for all.


Erectile Dysfunction: What It Is and How Doctors Diagnose It

October 22, 2019

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Erectile dysfunction (ED) affects many men at different points in their life. While it seems to be discussed ad nauseum, not all men really understand erectile dysfunction. Sure, the common knowledge is that it’s a penis problem and can be easily cured with a little blue pill. However, that’s not the truth of the matter. A lot of times, ED goes deeper into a man’s physical, emotional, and mental health.

Erectile Dysfunction Explained

The first point that needs to be made about ED is that it’s a persistent problem. This means that if at least 25 percent of the time a man cannot get or maintain an erection when he “summons” it, he may have erectile dysfunction. It is a chronic condition, which implies that it is consistent and, while it can be treated, it cannot, for simplicity’s sake, be cured.

Let’s also take a moment to debunk a common myth: men of any age can have erectile dysfunction. It is not something that only affects older men. That also means that not all older men have ED. However, the risk of getting ED increases significantly as a man ages.

Finally, it must be understood that erectile dysfunction doesn’t look the same for every man. Some can’t get an erection at all, while others can get an erection occasionally. Some men can get an erection but can’t maintain it. There’s a lot of range to ED, but that also means there’s a wide range for testing and treatment.

What Factors Cause Erectile Dysfunction?

To understand the diagnosis process for ED, it’s important to understand that it can manifest due to a wide range of causes. For some men, it’s all psychological. Men who are depressed, feeling anxiety, or having body issues can have ED. The most common factor, however, is men who have a disease may be experiencing erectile dysfunction as a symptom of their initial or root disease. This includes diseases and afflictions such as:

– Diabetes

– Obesity

– High blood pressure

– High cholesterol

– Heart disease

– Stroke

– Multiple sclerosis

– Cancer

Erectile Dysfunction: Tests for Diagnosis

There are many options for diagnosing erectile dysfunction. The most common are:

1) Physical Exam. It makes sense to inspect the equipment for any bruising, excessive scar tissue, lumps, or an excessive curve in the penis, which could be Peyronie’s disease, and to see what the sensation is like during the exam. This exam will include both the testicles and the penis.

2) Blood Tests. A blood sample may be drawn to check for signs of heart disease, diabetes, low testosterone levels, and other health conditions.

3) Urine test. Like blood tests, this test is also used to look for ED-related illnesses such as diabetes.

4) Psychological Exam. The doctor may ask questions to screen for depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues.

5) Ultrasound. The most physically invasive of the tests, ultrasound is performed by a specialist. He or she will hold a wand-like device over the blood vessels that supply blood to the penis. A video image of the test will be given to the treating physician for review to see if blood flow is the issue. This test can also be done in concert with injections of medication into the penis, which cause the stimulation of blood flow and production of an erection.

After testing, the doctor will make a diagnosis and a specific treatment plan. Most times, erections will return with treatment.


Male Ejaculation: Everything You Need to Know About Perceived Ejaculation Volume Reduction

October 22, 2019

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Instead of the exuberant firehose of his youth, a man may find himself moving to a spurting trickle when it comes to his love goo. What once was a thunderous tremor through the body upon orgasm is now a meek and mild jerk without a lot of fanfare or fireworks. When that happens, a man may have a weak erection or perceived ejaculation volume reduction. Male ejaculation is a simple but involved process that can age over time. If a man believes he may be experiencing weak ejaculation, or perceived ejaculation volume reduction, then he should continue reading.

Perceived Ejaculation Volume Reduction (PEVR)

PEVR, or weak ejaculation, is likely an effect of growing older. Just as other parts of the body weaken and change, so does a man’s reproductive center. Men may experience less force and less fluid when orgasming as they age. However, this is entirely subjective since it is the man himself who notices the change.

This perceived volume reduction during ejaculation means a man believes that he releases less semen than he once did. PEVR is quite common in men. There are several things that can cause PEVR, such as:

– Cancer treatment (especially prostate related)

– Issues with male hormone production

– Medications used for enlarged prostates, depression, and high blood pressure

– Diabetes

– Testicular issues that lead to a reduced level of or no male hormone production

The Basics of Male Ejaculation

Ejaculation releases semen from a man’s body through his penis. The process happens in two stages:

1) Emission – Semen collects in the urethral bulb at the base of the penis.

2) Expulsion – The muscles in the urethra contract to push the semen out of the penis.

Weak ejaculation is mostly subjective, meaning only the person ejaculating notices it. Orgasm intensity varies from man to man. While ejaculation may feel less than strong to a man, it may not be very much of a problem if it doesn’t affect his sexual satisfaction. For some men, a weak orgasm doesn’t feel as good as strong one.

Treating Weak Ejaculation

There are several ways to treat weak ejaculation. Treatment will be dependent upon what is believed to have caused PEVR. There are some medications that can help weak erection. If it’s diabetes-related, then a man should try getting his diabetes under control first before trying other methods. Men can also try Kegel exercises to help control ejaculation and give it more force.

If a man is looking to boost his sperm production, there are several things he can do, including:

– Exercise moderately and regularly. Try not to hit it too hard, though, because that can have the reverse effect.

– Get seven to nine hours of shut-eye each night.

– Watch the scale – obesity can reduce not only the quantity but also the quality of sperm.

– Stop smoking.

– Add more antioxidants to the diet, including selenium, lycopene, and vitamins C and E.

– Say no to trans fats.

A visit to a trusted doctor is the first step for men with weak ejaculation. The doctor will give a man the appropriate steps for treatment.


Premature Ejaculation Fixes

October 22, 2019

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Premature ejaculation can cause a lot of issues for a man. Not only can it cause embarrassment, self-esteem plummeting, and reduced pleasure, it can also drive a wedge between him and his partner. Thankfully, science has developed a few products to help guys suffering from premature ejaculation issues. One, in particular, is lidocaine, which calms down the oversensitive of the penis while erect. Lidocaine creams and sprays both contain this strong erection helper, but there are a few differences. Let’s learn a little more about premature ejaculation, lidocaine, and which delivery type works best for you!

What is Premature Ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation happens when a man orgasms sooner than he’d like while having sexual intercourse. One out of three men experiences this at some point in their lives. There are many potential causes of premature ejaculation, which include:

– Sexual inexperience

– Depression

– History of sexual abuse or trauma

– Negative body image

– Feelings of guilt for having sex

– Worrying about premature ejaculation

– Prostate issues

– Stress

– Relationship Issues

– Diabetes

– High blood pressure

– Thyroid problems

How Lidocaine Works

Lidocaine is a universally used anesthetic. It’s likely a man has used it at some point in his life for dental work like a root canal or other medical procedures. Lidocaine works by reducing the sensitivity when applied to a man’s skin, muscles, or other bodily tissue.

When used as a treatment for premature ejaculation, lidocaine works by reducing penile sensitivity, in turn, letting a man last longer during sex. Now, the lidocaine used in medical procedures is a far more potent dosage. For a stronger erection that lasts, only a small dosage should be used so a man can still feel pleasure during sex, but powerful enough that it can take the edge off of oversensitivity.

Lidocaine Cream and Premature Ejaculation

Lidocaine cream can be applied to the tip, or glans, of the penis as it is the most sensitive to touch. Most lidocaine creams made for this specific reason use a mixture of lidocaine and prilocaine, which is another topical anesthetic that is a bit less potent than lidocaine.

Studies show that this combination is very successful in increasing the duration of intercourse when taken approximately 30 minutes before sex. This cream is also inexpensive and usually stocked at most pharmacies. All a man needs is a script from his doc.

The drawback of lidocaine cream? It can get messy, and sometimes things can go astray. A man has to be very careful with it. After applying it to the tip of the penis, a man needs to very thoroughly wash his hands with soap and water, so he doesn’t inadvertently touch other parts of his or his partner’s body. A man also must remember to wash his penis after 20-30 minutes (yep, that’s right before hitting the sheets) so the cream doesn’t numb his partner’s happy spots.

Lidocaine Spray and Premature Ejaculation

The most significant difference between lidocaine cream and lidocaine spray (except for delivery method) is that the spray is exclusively lidocaine. The spray is also designed to be used anywhere on the penis, from the top of the glans to the underside of the shaft. It should be applied 10-15 minutes before getting busy. A man will still need to wash his hands immediately after using it.

Studies have shown that lidocaine spray is an effective treatment for premature ejaculation and can help a man last six to seven times longer in bed than without it. As compared to the cream, the spray acts faster and is easier and cleaner to use. Sprays also come in metered-dose bottles, so men can use the correct dosage and not guesstimate as they would with a cream.

The drawback of lidocaine spray? It has been shown to reduce some men’s sensitivity minimally, but not so much as to negatively impact sexual response and enjoyment.

Seven Important Questions About Male Organ Health Answered


The member is a complex and wondrous thing, so it’s no wonder it inspires much pondering and even more questions about its how’s and why’s. Add that to the Information Age and no limit to the content that a man can Google. However, where can a man turn to answer those delicate questions and come away with truthful, informative answers? Here’s a hint, it’s right here. Read on about seven important questions men ask about male organ health and how to have the healthiest member possible.

Male Organ Health Question #1: Is circumcision good or bad?

There are up and downsides to circumcision. Many men don’t get to make a choice for themselves as parents opt for circumcision immediately after birth. Let’s talk about the drawbacks of each. Uncircumcised members are more prone to smegma, phimosis, and paraphimosis and tend to be a touch more sensitive than their hoodless counterparts. Circumcised men are more likely to experience irritation and chafing and are more susceptible to STIs. Whether cut or uncut, two things are constant: 1. Always practice safe intimate relations, and 2. Clean the member thoroughly and daily to avoid smegma and balanitis.

Male Organ Health Question #2: Is it normal for pee to be different colors?

There are some perfectly normal reasons for urine to be something other than a light yellow. Sometimes it will take on the color of what a man eats, especially reds and greens. Other times, urine can inform a man about things that are going on in his body. Clear urine can indicate a man is overhydrated whereas orange or brown suggests the opposite. Bloody, blue, cloudy, or green urine can be a sign of an infection or internal health issue. See a doctor if concerned.

Male Organ Health Question #3: Does a normal member have a bend or curve to it?

A slight curve or bend is entirely normal. However, if a man has a significant bend that’s causing pain, it could be a sign of Peyronie’s disease. This happens when scar tissue builds up in the member, causing it to curve to one side. Scar tissue can be the result of a major genital trauma or repeated smaller injuries. If the bend is too much, see a urologist or primary care physician ASAP.

Male Organ Health Question #4: What is the right amount of fluid for release?

There’s no real “perfect” amount, but if a man is noticing he’s producing less than he used to, he could be suffering from PEVR. PEVR can be caused by diabetes, depression, medication, and testicular conditions. See a health professional if PEVR is suspected.

Male Organ Health Question #5: Can a man break his member?

Actually, yes, but it is most often called a member fracture because the member doesn’t have a bone per se. Member fractures happen when the inner lining of the member is torn. This is commonly caused by rough intimate relations. Symptoms of a genital fracture include a blue or black hue, flattening, and a popping noise at the time of fracture. Head to the ER immediately because a genital fracture is a severe medical emergency.

Male Organ Health Question #6: What’s going on when a man’s peeing more than usual?

Frequent urination could be an indicator of a few things such as diabetes, a urinary tract infection, and something called interstitial cystitis, which is an inflammation of the bladder muscles. If it’s often happening or if there’s burning accompanying the excessive urination, see a doctor as soon as possible.

Male Organ Health Question #7: Is it true if a man doesn’t use it, he’s going to lose it?

Well, yes and no. There’s no clinical evidence that a man will lose his hard-on forever if he hasn’t had intimate sensual contact with himself or a partner in a while. However, he may find his drive has declined, and he has a higher chance of member dysfunction. Like any muscle, the member needs a workout. The more a man works it out (safely, of course), the more powerful it can be. Of course, if a man is getting regular “workouts” for his love muscle, he should add a quality male organ health creme (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil , which has been clinically proven safe and mild for skin) every day. He needs a crème that is specifically created for delicate, genital skin, and one that provides all the critical nutrients the member needs to encourage rejuvenation and soft, elastic skin while boosting blood flow and vigor. There’s no question about it!